Embracing your Strength – Masculine and Feminine Power with Julie Fernandez

Embracing your Strength – Masculine and Feminine Power with Julie Fernandez

The podcast, “Embracing Your Strength – Masculine and Feminine Power with Julie Fernandez”, is a conversation that came about on a sunny Southern California afternoon. Julie is my yoga teacher. We also share a love for Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. Often times, our conversations center on exercise and strength training.

As we sipped mint tea, on the rear patio of La Maida Institute, the topic shifted to our vulnerabilities. It was a surprise to learn that Julie wasn’t always so confident and self-assured. Like many of us, Julie imagined that she was not meeting her own expectations.

Julie had a hard time accepting her physical strength as an asset. She considered it unfeminine. She felt it was a masculine trait. Anytime someone would complement her on how strong she was, Julie would cringe. Her idea of female beauty was a dainty, petite girly girl. Julie didn’t see herself in the corporatized slick advertising in the media.

This is her story of continuing evolution, and growth. She now understands that her beauty flows from her strength. How did she learn this lesson? Listen to the podcast!

I had a great time doing this one. Julie’s journey of greater understanding of masculine and feminine power and her own self acceptance, is inspiring, and informative.

Transcribed Excerpt

Hector: This is episode 25 of happy and healthy over 40, the website and podcast for people over 40, where we discuss Health, sex, mindset, lifestyle, and relationships – as we enter our forties and Beyond.  Whether you want to maintain your vitality, grow your competitive Spirit, or you want to keep a clear mind and a powerful body. Maybe you just want to feel healthy. You’ve come to the right place you may not be 21 years old anymore but you can feel like a million bucks.

On this episode of the show we’re going to be speaking with Julie Fernandez Julie is a trauma therapist and operations manager for La Maida Institute – a holistic Wellness Center here in North Hollywood California. She’s also a yoga instructor and program manager for Exhale to Inhale. Julie’s been on the show once before and it’s a real pleasure to have her back! Julie is also my yoga instructor. She’s helping me improve my flexibility and Joint strength so that I can continue to do Brazilian jiu-jitsu. She’s also Brazilian jiu-jitsu practitioners as well.

Our topic today is embracing your strengths and masculine and feminine power welcome Julie!

Julie: thank you thank you, nice to be back

Hector: Right on. We’ve had a couple of interesting conversations recently. We got into the topic of embracing your strength it started out as a conversation about martial arts and feeling strong and embracing that power. The power that you feel. It evolved into this conversation about embracing our power.

You and I both didn’t want to accept our own power. The way that you are powerful – the way that it came across to me was that you didn’t want to acknowledge that power. You’re finally acknowledging that. Please let the listeners know about that.

“I didn’t want to be seen as weak.”

Julie: it’s been a journey we talked about that it stems back from childhood. I’m a Survivor of a lot of abuse, a lot of sexual and physical abuse. In many cases my power was taken away I always felt really weak and in order for me to keep going I had to be tough. I wanted to do away with all the girly stuff.

I didn’t want people to see me as weak. Because, I had to be strong cuz I had to protect myself. It’s really helpful to have that and then as I got older.

As I grew into a woman, I also wanted to be seen as feminine so then I had to let go of that strong Persona or so I thought and whenever somebody would mention that I was strong physically. I remember having such a negative reaction to it and got to be seen as a strong woman. It’s just that whole dynamic is really hard for me to accept  that I am strong I wanted to be seen as a beautiful woman it was hard for me to accept both – to be seen as both.

“…feeling my strength… it was really healing for me.”

The last few years I started getting into weight training, and I started tapping into my strength even my trainers and some of the people I train with would always comment that I feel so strong. I don’t want to be and I am actually really strong – physically strong.

It was something to see myself get stronger and stronger each time lifting heavier and heavier weights. this is me learning to accept that what would it be like for me to use that in different ways and that’s when I started to get into Jiu Jitsu and seeing and feeling my strength in that way it was really really healing for me for me.

Learn more by listening to the podcast…

Links

Metta Healing arts

Exhale to Inhale

La Maida Institute

The Healing Power of Mindful Breathing

Domains of Well Being and Happiness

Returning to Jiu Jitsu After 40