Useful tips on keeping the relationship together during social distancing
Episode 33 – Covid 19, Corona Virus, or SARS-CoV-2 – No matter what you call this virus, it spells isolation. Even the most introverted humans have personal relationships that they value and want to maintain. We humans are designed to live together. Anthropologists can prove that hominids (early humans) have lived in bands, tribes, and villages for millennia.
Covid – 19
Since the terrible spread of Covid – 19, we’ve been engaging in some very un-human like activity through self imposed isolation or quarantine. Even monks who live in silence still live in proximity to other monks during their meditations, and daily activities. Mass global quarantine is unusual to say the least.
Don’t get me wrong. There’s growing evidence that social distancing and quarantine are working. The spread of the virus is slowing down. That is a good thing. Until scientists create a vaccine for this pandemic, social distancing and testing are the best solutions for saving lives.
You will probably survive this virus, but what about your love life? You’re stuck at home with your significant others. I’d bet you a roll of toilet paper that there will be a new baby boom for the next two years. For a lot of people there’s nothing to do but watch Netflix and make babies.
For some other folks a 24/7 scenario is too much of a good thing. I got a call the other day from a friend, who is staying with his parents during the pandemic. He’s not doing this because they need his help. They need a referee, otherwise they were going to come apart. This may not be you, but if you find yourself frustrated and maybe a little more annoyed than usual with your partner. You might be getting a touch of what the old timers used to call “cabin fever“. No, not the movie! It’s an actual disorder from too much close proximity over an extended period of time.
So what can you do to stay safe and maintain a healthy relationship? How do our relationships survive this pandemic? Fear not. On this latest podcast I’ve brought in relationship expert Allana Pratt to lend us some insight on how to deal with this temporary situation.
Allana Pratt Bio:
Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt is a global media personality and go-to authority for those who have suffered heartbreak and are ready to live unapologetically, and attract an open-hearted, ideal relationship. Her vulnerability and courage landed her a featured weekly column on the GoodMenProject, featured as an Icon of Influence, and as Guest Expert on Huffington Post, People Magazine, Forbes, CBS & FOX and The Jenny McCarthy Show. Allana is the Author of 4 books. She has interviewed Whoopi Goldberg, on her edgy Podcast “Intimate Conversations”, where listeners learn how to find the relationship they deserve.
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Episode 29 – Ayurveda a blueprint for fatherhood – with Arun Deva, is a conversation with Ayurveda and Yoga therapist Arun Deva about fatherhood. Today I learned that Ayurveda is not just about food combining. It’s a system and science for living, with a special blueprint for fathers and how to raise a family, through respect, communication, and personal sacrifice.
About Arun Deva
Arun Deva, is a highly credentialed Ayurvedic Practitioner, and Ayurvedic yoga therapist. DASc. He’s a graduate of the American Institute Of Ayurveda, Ayurvedic Practitioner (NAMA)*, Ayurvedic Yoga Therapist (NAMA), Yoga Therapist (IAYT**) and a Vinyasa Krama certified yoga teacher (E-RYT500).
Arun is also the founder of Arunachala Yoga & Ayurveda, Arun has the pleasure of serving both the National & State Ayurvedic Associations: NAMA & CAAM for over 15 years. Currently he heads NAMA’s Committee for Ayurvedic Yoga Therapy.
Arun teaches internationally, lectures at Conferences, writes articles for different publications, has been featured on both radio and television and has a clinic for consultations and various treatments including panchakarma (detox and rejuvenation protocols) and yoga therapy in Los Angeles/West Hollywood.
What you learn
- Do they celebrate Father’s Day in India?
- The things that Arun feels his practice of Ayurveda has brought to his parenting, that gives him a unique perspective?
- What aspects of life has gotten better for Arun as he gets older? This is absolutely related to Ayurveda and yoga!
- Arun’s advice to young fathers, who are having difficulty communicating with their family?
- What it means when Arun says, “grow up before you grow old”.
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The Sacred Sacrifice of Fatherhood
Ayurveda for modern living
Episode 28 of Happy and Healthy Over 40 – The Sacred Sacrifice of Fatherhood – Coach and Facilitator Soma Miller discuss why he sees fatherhood as a sacred sacrifice, and why he thinks fathers should learn by talking with one another to discuss ideas on parenting, especially for young fathers. The Sacred Sacrifice of Fatherhood, is a conversation that surprised me a great deal. Soma Miller is a friend and a wise man. I’d never heard fatherhood described as a sacred sacrifice.
Happy Father’s Day to all the dads who don’t get enough recognition, and to all the dads that do. This is the first in the Father’s Day series for all of those fathers out there who respect, the sacred sacrifice of fatherhood!
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Nature’s Healing Power
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Episode 27 – How to Bounce Back when the World Knocks You Down – with Frank Ferrante
As the subject of the documentary MAY I BE FRANK?, Mr. Frank Ferrante, opened his heart in a courageous and vulnerable way. The ending has inspired thousands of people to face their own demons. Frank himself was inspired to become a spokesperson for personal transformation and weight loss.
Frank experienced the struggles of losing weight, and succeeded by taking a holistic perspective. His new mindset inspired Frank, to speak about the power of transformation, that rests in all of us. Today he shares what he’s learned since the success of the movie in 2010.
Synopsis of “May I Be Frank”
Frank Ferrante is 54. He weighs 290lbs. Frank’s had a lifetime of drug & alcohol abuse and as a result contracted Hepatitis-C. He’s on multiple medications including anti-depressants, undergoing chemo and drinks 10 espressos a day to stay awake.
One day Frank stumbles into Cafe Gratitude, a Raw food café in San Francisco. The cafe’s manager. Ryland asks Frank, what is one thing you’d like to do before you die? Frank answers ‘I want to fall in love one more time, but with a body like this, no one will love me, because i don’t love myself.’ Watch as Ryland, his brother Cary and best friend Conor, help Frank take on his weight, health, relationships and loving himself in just 42 days!
Frank Ferrante quotes
“I am not an expert nor do I have the answer. I have witnessed the indisputable fact that we are all connected. What we do can and will make a difference.”
“I have learned that the three most important things a man can say are: I don’t know.Would you please help me? I love you.”
“What happens when Tony Soprano meets Deepak Chopra? That’s how people have described my story. I might throw some Woody Allen in there and a dash of Hunter S. Thompson.”
Let Frank Be Your Transformational Coach!
Paleo Meal Plan
How to lose 65 pounds – and keep it off!
Food Allergies Ruin Healthy Sleep
How to Beat a Heart attack
Domains of Well Being and Happiness
How to Get a Woman’s Attention After 40
Diet, diet book, May I Be Frank, Weight Loss, Losing weight, Transformation, Coaching, Courage
The podcast, “Embracing Your Strength – Masculine and Feminine Power with Julie Fernandez”, is a conversation that came about on a sunny Southern California afternoon. Julie is my yoga teacher. We also share a love for Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. Often times, our conversations center on exercise and strength training.
As we sipped mint tea, on the rear patio of La Maida Institute, the topic shifted to our vulnerabilities. It was a surprise to learn that Julie wasn’t always so confident and self-assured. Like many of us, Julie imagined that she was not meeting her own expectations.
Julie had a hard time accepting her physical strength as an asset. She considered it unfeminine. She felt it was a masculine trait. Anytime someone would complement her on how strong she was, Julie would cringe. Her idea of female beauty was a dainty, petite girly girl. Julie didn’t see herself in the corporatized slick advertising in the media.
This is her story of continuing evolution, and growth. She now understands that her beauty flows from her strength. How did she learn this lesson? Listen to the podcast!
I had a great time doing this one. Julie’s journey of greater understanding of masculine and feminine power and her own self acceptance, is inspiring, and informative.
Hector: This is episode 25 of happy and healthy over 40, the website and podcast for people over 40, where we discuss Health, sex, mindset, lifestyle, and relationships – as we enter our forties and Beyond. Whether you want to maintain your vitality, grow your competitive Spirit, or you want to keep a clear mind and a powerful body. Maybe you just want to feel healthy. You’ve come to the right place you may not be 21 years old anymore but you can feel like a million bucks.
On this episode of the show we’re going to be speaking with Julie Fernandez Julie is a trauma therapist and operations manager for La Maida Institute – a holistic Wellness Center here in North Hollywood California. She’s also a yoga instructor and program manager for Exhale to Inhale. Julie’s been on the show once before and it’s a real pleasure to have her back! Julie is also my yoga instructor. She’s helping me improve my flexibility and Joint strength so that I can continue to do Brazilian jiu-jitsu. She’s also Brazilian jiu-jitsu practitioners as well.
Our topic today is embracing your strengths and masculine and feminine power welcome Julie!
Julie: thank you thank you, nice to be back
Hector: Right on. We’ve had a couple of interesting conversations recently. We got into the topic of embracing your strength it started out as a conversation about martial arts and feeling strong and embracing that power. The power that you feel. It evolved into this conversation about embracing our power.
You and I both didn’t want to accept our own power. The way that you are powerful – the way that it came across to me was that you didn’t want to acknowledge that power. You’re finally acknowledging that. Please let the listeners know about that.
“I didn’t want to be seen as weak.”
Julie: it’s been a journey we talked about that it stems back from childhood. I’m a Survivor of a lot of abuse, a lot of sexual and physical abuse. In many cases my power was taken away I always felt really weak and in order for me to keep going I had to be tough. I wanted to do away with all the girly stuff.
I didn’t want people to see me as weak. Because, I had to be strong cuz I had to protect myself. It’s really helpful to have that and then as I got older.
As I grew into a woman, I also wanted to be seen as feminine so then I had to let go of that strong Persona or so I thought and whenever somebody would mention that I was strong physically. I remember having such a negative reaction to it and got to be seen as a strong woman. It’s just that whole dynamic is really hard for me to accept that I am strong I wanted to be seen as a beautiful woman it was hard for me to accept both – to be seen as both.
“…feeling my strength… it was really healing for me.”
The last few years I started getting into weight training, and I started tapping into my strength even my trainers and some of the people I train with would always comment that I feel so strong. I don’t want to be and I am actually really strong – physically strong.
It was something to see myself get stronger and stronger each time lifting heavier and heavier weights. this is me learning to accept that what would it be like for me to use that in different ways and that’s when I started to get into Jiu Jitsu and seeing and feeling my strength in that way it was really really healing for me for me.
Learn more by listening to the podcast…
Metta Healing arts
Exhale to Inhale
La Maida Institute
The Healing Power of Mindful Breathing
Domains of Well Being and Happiness
Returning to Jiu Jitsu After 40
Episode 23 – How Brazilian Jiu Jitsu Helped Black Belt Mike Radell Beat a Heart Attack: 76-year-old, Mike Radell is a Brazilian Jiu Jitsu black belt and a very wise man. In this episode, Mike explains how his strenuous training and dedication to BJJ helped him overcome the effects of a heart attack. He teaches the importance of vigorous exercise in your life, as you continue to get older, in order to stay out of the doctor’s office, and into the life that you love!
Brazilian Jiu Jitsu Blackbelt Mike Radell shares his insights in training for Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. Mike has been an inspiration for me personally. He’s always been one of the black belts at Machado academy that I looked up to, because he was older and yet always appeared to be very energetic and full of life. He’s the quiet humble dude that you’d never want to mess with and that impresses me most of all! I’ve been looking forward to this interview for several months now.
If you’re worried if you’re too old to try something new, then consider that, Mike was 55 years old when he began his Brazilian Jiu Jitsu career. Ten years after that, Mike suffered a heart attack. His cardiologist said the strenuous exercise and BJJ training had strengthened Mike’s arteries. In short, living an active lifestyle had saved Mike’s life.
Ironically, the doctor was also a judo player. His name is Maeda. The man who brought BJJ to the Gracie family in Brazil was named Mitsuyo Maeda. Coincidence or fate?!? When Mike asked him if it was a good idea to continue to train after the heart attack, the Judoka said, he didn’t see a reason why Mike shouldn’t.
Even though Mike is 76 years old, he makes time to practice Jiu Jitsu, every week. He’s built friendships, and continues to improve as a BJJ player. He admits that the life he leads is better because he stays fit and eats healthy. Mike advocates for Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, not because of winning belts or medals, but because it makes his life better.
He also was the man who introduced the sport of Jiu Jitsu to Felicia Oh. She has gone on to win many titles, and is a member of the “Dirty Dozen”. These are the first twelve non-Brazilian women to achieve Black belt in BJJ. Felicia gives thanks to Mike in her interview here on an episode of the podcast.
Mike spends quality time, riding bikes, and surfing with his son. He travels with his wife, and usually manages find to a Jiu Jitsu Dojo for training during their travels. He is also preparing the next generation for BJJ by teaching his grand children this martial art.