Creating Success at any Stage in Life

Creating Success at any Stage in Life

Heather Gray the mindset “shrink” with tips on creating success at any stage in life. Improve performance, achieve your goals at any stage in life.

What this episode is about

Our topic in this episode – Creating success at any stage in life. We’re going to be speaking with Heather Gray. This podcast came about based on Heather’s awesome, “I didn’t come this far, to only come this far” birthday post on Facebook.  Heather is going to give us some tips and ideas to change, what you can do to make forward progress in your 40’s and beyond. We talk about making meaningful changes to your life, keeping what you like – or improve upon, and how she is sticking to her own plan for living. This is a powerful no bullshit conversation about what it takes to be successful in all areas of your life. Heather walks her talk, so take notes.

Heather Gray Bio

Heather Gray is a performance and mindset coach for business owners and leaders at Choose to Have It All. Her clients move past sharing pithy, motivational quotes as a mindset strategy and learn instead how to put those concepts into action in their own lives. Join her community group on FB to continue the conversation.

What you’ll learn

  1. How you can set a powerful intention
  2. Is it better to set an intention or have goals with deadlines or both?
  3. How you show up in relationships when you’ve make powerful changes in your life.
  4. How boundaries change and improve when you set out on a journey to succeed in life.
  5. Do your identity, goals, and point of view shift when you’re in your 40’s?
  6. What is consistent intention and how to apply it in life?
  7. “Talk the talk and walk the walk.” Heather and I discuss what that really means. and the prices that we’ve paid to make success happen.
  8. How can a person who feels that others are responsible for their own hardships, take responsibility for themselves?


Choose to Have It All

Lauren Alten lost 60 lbs and has kept it off for over a year. Here’s how she does it.

Lauren Alten lost 60 lbs and has kept it off for over a year. Here’s how she does it.

Lauren lost 60 lbs, and has kept it off for over a year. 



What This Episode is About

Lauren Alten spent decades bouncing from being overweight to obese, trying every diet under the sun. One night, she lay in bed with a racing pulse, gasping for air. She prayed the prayer of the desperate and made a vow that if she was shown the way back to health she would not only follow it, but she would light the way for others to follow. This is her story.  

She has now found lasting solutions, lost over 60 pounds, achieved her ideal sized body, and maintains it long term. It is her mission to empower women to go from lives of quiet desperation, low energy and expanding waistlines to living their lives Slim Whole and Free. 

Lauren lost 60 lbs, and has kept it off for over a year. She’s got something to teach, and you might do well to listen to her.



What You’ll Learn

  • Why counting calories or food points doesn’t work.
  • The brain chemistry behind sugar and flour addiction.
  • Why intuitive eating doesn’t work for a large portion of the population.
  • Improving your gut health and restoring your hormone balance.
  • Why too much exercise, when you are in weight loss mode, is counter-productive.
  • The willpower myth (you really do have plenty of willpower, you just need to understand how to harness it!).
  • Slow metabolism? Low thyroid function? Aging body? Bad genes? You CAN still lose weight! Lauren did it with all those factors in place.
  • Finding peace and freedom in your ideal sized body.


Quick tips for lasting weight loss

Can cookware cause cancer

Inflammation, and functional nutrition

The Three Principals and Universal Truth

The Three Principals and Universal Truth

Episode# 8: The Three Principals and Universal Truth


What This Podcast is About

This podcast, The Three Principals and Universal Truth, is a basic explanation that helps us to see how our reality works. It helps us get to the source of knowledge and wisdom. Every now and again, everyone has a great idea or insight that seems to have appeared out of thin air. Imagine these insights coming to you on a regular basis. Since I’ve been studying The Three Principals, stress and anxiety are now greatly diminished. Before, emotions were a problem that needed to be controlled. Ironically, they often times controlled me. Difficult emotions are no longer things that I try to avoid. They are things that I experience. When these emotions subside, I acknowledge them, and move onward. My goal is to address any issues that these emotions bring up in me. As a result, my mind is free to explore, engage, and create in the moment. In addition, I’m more easily able to come up with creative ideas for my work too. The benefits are unlimited. Take a listen.

About Rohini Ross

Rohini Ross is passionate about helping people wake up to their true nature. She is a psychotherapist, a transformative coach, and author of the forthcoming Soul-Centered Series. Rohini is an international coach. Her practice includes helping individuals, couples, and professionals embrace all of who they are so they can experience greater levels of well being, resiliency, and success. She also co-facilitates The Space Mastermind for Solopreneurs with Barb Patterson. You can follow Rohini on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, watch her Vlogs with her husband, Angus Ross, and subscribe to her weekly blog

What You Will Learn

  1. Why all reality begins in the mind?
  2. What are the 3 principal?
  3. The differences between Universal Mind, Consciousness and Thought.
  4. What is the difference between my thoughts and universal thoughts?
  5. Change negative thinking. Turn a corner on thoughts that have been present for a lifetime.
  6. How does this help me in my daily life?
  7. What is possible and not possible with The Three Principals?
  8. Why doesn’t The Three Principals have practices, and exercises, like meditation, and visualization?
How to Get a Woman’s Attention After 40

How to Get a Woman’s Attention After 40

What this Podcast is about:

Attraction is a question that comes up often for anyone who’s ever been a relationship coach. How to get a woman’s attention after 40, is at the heart of that question for single men over 40. Breakups such as divorce are often unwelcome surprises and can leave a man unprepared for the dating world. Maybe confidence in yourself is on the rocks? Is trust an issue for you? Career, finances, and family obligations are the sacrifices that we make to achieve our goals. Sometimes these obligations stand in the way of romance. Years pass and you get more anxious about your prospects for finding the woman of your dreams, or an awesome sexual partner. The older you get the harder it seems to find a great woman. All the good ones seem to be taken. You’ve got to fix this.

You’re in luck. On today’s podcast, I’ve brought in one of the top relationship and dating coaches for men. Shana James has a rare talent. She explains what women think, feel, and want you to do – and she explains it in ways that make for actionable plans.


Shana James    “I like to talk about this as an opportunity …to get more real.”

~Coach and facilitator – Shana James

Shana has coached nearly a thousand men and almost as many women, around the world, in the past decade. She has led events for and Table for Six. Ms. James is a dating consultant for an MTV reality show. Shana is an ally for men. She brings a combination of Western and Eastern wisdom with her Masters in psychology, training in man/woman dynamics, as well as yoga, meditation, tantra and various spiritual practices. She does not teach games or pick up lines, but works specifically with each man in the places he holds back and feels stuck.

With incredible love and compassion for men, vulnerability and willingness to tell the truth, Shana makes it safe for you to work through your biggest fears and deepest shame, so you are free to have passionate, fulfilling connections, relationships and sex with the women you really want.

What you’ll learn:

  • How to get a woman’s attention after 40
  • Dealing with rejection
  • Are we a good match vs. am I good enough for her? (self-respect)
  • How to recover from desperation/grasping and start automatically attracting a woman’s attention
  • Stop apologizing for yourself 
  • Inspire yourself
  • Understanding your own value


Shana James Coaching

Shana James Power

Communicate Better with Your Partner

Sexual Empowerment


How to Live and Work Abroad

How to Live and Work Abroad

In this episode – how to live and work abroad. We discuss if using your holiday time to investigate, and begin your dream of being a Digital Nomad is a smart use of your time, and why it might be cheaper, easier, and improve your quality of life to have location independence. How to investigate whether this lifestyle is for you, and how to get started and plan for the future. Sound good?


  Luke Benjamin Thomas or as he’s known by friends and ninjas LBT, created  his website back in 2012 to help people get started with their online business. He teaches digital nomads how to take their businesses to the next level so they can continue traveling and kicking ass in online business. 

Needless to say, LBT, knows how to live and work abroad. He is well informed about living an active and interesting life, and he’s got a wicked sense of humor to boot.

What You’ll Learn in this Podcast

  1. The difference between a Digital Nomad, and a Location Independent person? Learn the differences between the two?
  2. Who should consider becoming a Digital Nomad, and who should consider Location Independence? Who should avoid them both?
  3. Why is it particularly good for people approaching 40 or over to consider this as an alternative to staying in a more traditional 9 to 5 structured work environment?
  4. What are the major benefits of opening a new chapter in life as a digital warrior or as a location independent person?
  5. What are the questions a person should ask themselves as they set out in this journey? Also are there particular issues that a person over 40 should pay attention to?
  6. How can a person with limited time to experiment and explore the possibilities of becoming a Digital Nomad can use their vacation time to answer these important questions.
  7. Tips for those who have the travel bug and want to explore becoming location independent or a digital nomad.



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Kill Your Heroes – Fitness Beyond 40

Kill Your Heroes – Fitness Beyond 40

All pumped to get fit after March Madness? Maybe you watched all the Nike, and Gatorade ads and somehow saw yourself sprinting and power-lifting your way into that cool new bathing suit. Do you feel ready to get into the gym way and get shredded for the summer? Awesome! There’s nothing better than riding a wave of inspiration. You never know how far it will take you. You’re going to push yourself to the max every single day until you reach your fitness goals. Before you get pumping and running, read this first, and get ready to take your fitness beyond 40.

Who hasn’t wanted to be like Mike, at one time or another? The music, the triumph, the fist pumping, what a great athlete to inspire you. Right? If he can do it, why can’t you? Between watching Oregon and North Carolina going at it to the bitter end, and the Michael Jordan theme playing in your head, you’re officially inspired. Hurray! Nothing will stop you. Maybe you haven’t exercised in months, but you’re inspired. You set your alarm clock for 5 AM. Hell or high water, you’re going on a 5 mile run before work.

The next morning, your alarm goes off. Ding – ding! Lebron James has got nothing on you. You’ve been inspired by your heroes to be just like them! If you’re not too out of shape, maybe you survive your 5 mile run the first day. If you’re not too sore the following day, you hit it again. You keep pushing yourself to the max despite soreness, and time constraints of an ambitious workout regimen to an already busy schedule. If you haven’t injured yourself from overexertion, like many people, your life may get in the way. Hitting it hard everyday, like a pro athlete, for a heavy duty workout could take a big chunk out of your schedule. Events and obligations can stand in the way, and eventually you lose your steam. No more running , with the theme playing in your ears. No more inspiration. No more bathing suit. All your left with his a feeling of failure. Sound familiar?

Inspiring advertising starring your favorite sports figures can set you up to fail

First of all, it’s not your fault. All those Nike, and Gatorade commercials with your favorite heroes are designed to do one thing – inspire you. Inspire you to do what? Buy a ton of shit that you don’t need in order to be healthy and look good, of course. By some estimates sporting gear like running shoes, sports drinks, and workout apparel earned 65 billion dollars in 2015. That does not include bicycles and fishing boats, etc. That’s another 30 billion dollars. When this amount of dollars are at stake you can bet that there will be a lot of clever advertising directed at you ; the consumer. The whole idea of this advertising is to make you feel like you’re a loser unless you buy whatever they’re selling. Don’t play the advertiser’s game. It’s great to be inspired. It’s even greater to be smart at your efforts toward your fitness goals. Here are a few tips designed to keep you focused on your fitness goals after 40.

Start with you

No matter how high you aspire to reach with your fitness goals, always begin with where you are at the moment. If you haven’t worked out in a while, start slow. If you were a star athlete in college, and you haven’t been consistent regarding your exercise routine, then address your current position. Don’t let your ego stand in the way of success. Begin again. Warm up your joints and take it slow. Injuries after 40 can be much more serious than you imagine. Pros can take several months off for surgeries and physical therapy with the best doctors and trainers in the world. You on the other hand have to go to work tomorrow. Can you take time off from work for orthopedic surgery and recovery time? Probably not.

No doubt you’ve got some time limitations. Work, family, maybe a business on the side – it doesn’t make a difference. Don’t think you need several hours a day to get into great shape. With a little planning, you can always find enough time to do some training. You can’t afford not to make the time. Why? Because if you don’t make time to exercise then you’d better get ready to get old before your time. How does that sound? Don’t worry, you can reach your fitness goals without busting your ass, or breaking the bank, and all within a short time expenditure everyday. What’s the secret?

Consistency over Intensity

Professional athletes do very intense workouts because they have to do it. It’s their job, and they are well paid to put in the many hours on the track, in the gym, and at the arena. You’ve always got time during the day to boost your metabolism for at least 20 minutes 5 to 6 days a week. At the moment, if you can do only one push up then get up every morning and do your push up. Soon you’ll be doing two. Then two turns into five. Five turns into twenty. Those push ups are your personal Be Like Mike moments. Before you know it you’ll be cranking out push ups, body weight squats, and pull ups like a champ. Remember consistency beats intensity. How does this work?

  1. Consistency builds strong habits. It’s a lot easier to build the habit of exercising if the workouts are quick. Short time equals less hassles. Less hassles equals less excuses. Less excuses equals a strong habit.
  2. Consistency builds momentum. When you do your twenty minute exercise routine, your body is building momentum. It’s going to start craving those push ups, and evening walks or whatever works for your present level of fitness. It will start to feel good, and when that starts to happen, you’ll begin to make more time for training.
  3. Consistent exercise burns fat. Your body has natural intelligence. After a short time of consistent daily training your body is going to start burning off some of that muffin top you’ve got going on. I’ve seen people burn themselves out on the track by being too intense and inconsistent. They never lose the weight and think that somehow they’re a “bad” person or incapable of good health. Nothing could be further from the truth.
  4. Consistent training builds a healthy mind. Studies have shown that regular exercise keeps your brain firing on all cylinders.

Keep in mind, that the best tips I can give you without knowing about your situation directly, is to start slow and be kind to yourself. If you feel silly because you think that you should be further along with your exercise routine, just remember, your goal is raise your metabolism for a short time every single day with a couple days rest. That’s it. Pushing yourself too hard is not going to help. Beating yourself up is going to help you even less.

I can go into greater detail once I get to know you. What are your fitness goals. Perhaps you’ve got particular challenges that you’ve overcome or maybe you have some great tips of your own. I’d love to hear from you contact me here: