If nothing will be the same, then how will your life be different? – Is an enlightening conversation with author, and educator, Michael J. Goldberg, on the Enneagram, and changing your life for the better. Michael is the author of Travels with Odysseus, and The 9 Ways of Working.
About Michael J. Goldberg
Michael is the author of several great books, based on the Enneagram personality typing system. Two of my favorites are Travels with Odysseus and the Nine Ways of Working. Michael is also a speaker and consultant. His specialties are leadership, executive presence and team collaboration.
In speaking to Michael I have found his knowledge of the Enneagram personality types goes much deeper, than many who teach the system. His approach is refreshing. We both believe that it is not productive to use personality type as a justification for your behavior. A lot like Odysseus on his quest for home, the Enneagram is far more useful as a map and a compass that points you in the direction of a richer fuller life.
The Enneagram can help you understand friends and loved ones. Mental fitness is a positive attribute of introspection. Unlike the Cyclops, we have an eye that looks at the world, and the other, looks inward. This system can help you build business strategies and relationships. Office politics need not be a nightmare. You can use your leadership skills to end frustrations and build alliances. Right now the world needs better leaders.
This is the most fun I’ve had in a while on the podcast. We discuss everything from the Enneagram to films to dealing with the pandemic. Michael’s insightful humor will tickle your brain cells into positive action.
Deshaan Johnson is a men’s work coach. His company, Socially Agile, is dedicated to improving and empowering the lives of men. Deshaan has a great YouTube channel by the name Socially Agile where he discusses many topics that are near and dear to me such as the power of presence, being intentional in life, growth, grounding oneself with integrity, and he did a video with Soma Miller about our topic today which is the benefits of mentorship. So go check out Deshaan on YouTube!
Episode 27 – How to Bounce Back when the World Knocks You Down – with Frank Ferrante
As the subject of the documentary MAY I BE FRANK?, Mr. Frank Ferrante, opened his heart in a courageous and vulnerable way. The ending has inspired thousands of people to face their own demons. Frank himself was inspired to become a spokesperson for personal transformation and weight loss.
Frank experienced the struggles of losing weight, and succeeded by taking a holistic perspective. His new mindset inspired Frank, to speak about the power of transformation, that rests in all of us. Today he shares what he’s learned since the success of the movie in 2010.
Synopsis of “May I Be Frank”
Frank Ferrante is 54. He weighs 290lbs. Frank’s had a lifetime of drug & alcohol abuse and as a result contracted Hepatitis-C. He’s on multiple medications including anti-depressants, undergoing chemo and drinks 10 espressos a day to stay awake.
One day Frank stumbles into Cafe Gratitude, a Raw food café in San Francisco. The cafe’s manager. Ryland asks Frank, what is one thing you’d like to do before you die? Frank answers ‘I want to fall in love one more time, but with a body like this, no one will love me, because i don’t love myself.’ Watch as Ryland, his brother Cary and best friend Conor, help Frank take on his weight, health, relationships and loving himself in just 42 days!
Frank Ferrante quotes
“I am not an expert nor do I have the answer. I have witnessed the indisputable fact that we are all connected. What we do can and will make a difference.”
“I have learned that the three most important things a man can say are: I don’t know.Would you please help me? I love you.”
“What happens when Tony Soprano meets Deepak Chopra? That’s how people have described my story. I might throw some Woody Allen in there and a dash of Hunter S. Thompson.”
Episode 26 of Happy and Healthy Over 40: Understanding Neurofeedback with John Mekrut. This is a conversation with leading Neurofeedback expert, John Mekrut. We discuss the human brain, getting older, training your brain through Neurofeedback – and bees!
John Mekrut’s Bio
Mister Mekrut is the owner of The Balanced Brain Neurofeedback Training Center which specializes in training the brain in self-regulation for maximum performance. He is the father of two teenage girls. One of his daughters is on the autistic spectrum. Neurofeedback training helped her improve her self-regulation and stop taking medications. It was a wonderful transformation and set her on a path of success in school and life.
His experience with his daughter, led John to train at the Othmer Institute in Woodland Hills, California. John trained with Sue and Siegfried Othmer. They are two pioneers in Neurofeedback training.
“I keep myself informed about the latest developments in neuroscience, attend professional development courses and am always looking to add elements of mind/body work to my practice. Since the brain does not work in a vacuum, I encourage proper nutrition, sleep habits, and behavioral changes that will aid in the work of properly re-regulating a disregulated brain.”
John’s decade long experience with biofeedback and Neurofeedback technologies has made him a recognized leader in his field. He is the President of the Western Association of Biofeedback and Neuroscience. It is the oldest professional organization for biofeedback professionals and for the second year in a row.
John is also included in the TransTech 200 as one of the two hundred thought leaders promoting the use of technology for mental, physical and spiritual wellness. John Mekrut is a sought after speaker in a variety of venues. He maintains a robust clinical practice serving clients from toddlers to senior citizens.
What are some applications for Neurofeedback?
John Mekrut utilizes state of the art technologies, which provide direct awareness of the brain’s own signaling. Neurofeedback teaches the brain to build new neural pathways and increase blood flow to specific regions that need it, physically rewiring your brain to transform the way you think, feel, and experience the world. It is taught to re calibrate its behavior and promote stability and flexibility of response.
The clinical applications go back over 30 years. The applications include improving the symptoms of complex and developmental trauma. Some of the issues addressed are: ASD, ADHD, ODD, anxiety/depression disorders and many more. The holistic nature of the training complements and augments any other interventions that may comprise a treatment plan.
This led to Mr. Mekrut’s association with Hope Psychiatry, where integrated modalities are the cornerstone of long-term recovery. John is a valued member of the team, and his work is part of the integrative effort to improve the lives of the growing community.
The podcast, “Embracing Your Strength – Masculine and Feminine Power with Julie Fernandez”, is a conversation that came about on a sunny Southern California afternoon. Julie is my yoga teacher. We also share a love for Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. Often times, our conversations center on exercise and strength training.
As we sipped mint tea, on the rear patio of La Maida Institute, the topic shifted to our vulnerabilities. It was a surprise to learn that Julie wasn’t always so confident and self-assured. Like many of us, Julie imagined that she was not meeting her own expectations.
Julie had a hard time accepting her physical strength as an asset. She considered it unfeminine. She felt it was a masculine trait. Anytime someone would complement her on how strong she was, Julie would cringe. Her idea of female beauty was a dainty, petite girly girl. Julie didn’t see herself in the corporatized slick advertising in the media.
This is her story of continuing evolution, and growth. She now understands that her beauty flows from her strength. How did she learn this lesson? Listen to the podcast!
I had a great time doing this one. Julie’s journey of greater understanding of masculine and feminine power and her own self acceptance, is inspiring, and informative.
Hector: This is episode 25 of happy and healthy over 40, the website and podcast for people over 40, where we discuss Health, sex, mindset, lifestyle, and relationships – as we enter our forties and Beyond. Whether you want to maintain your vitality, grow your competitive Spirit, or you want to keep a clear mind and a powerful body. Maybe you just want to feel healthy. You’ve come to the right place you may not be 21 years old anymore but you can feel like a million bucks.
On this episode of the show we’re going to be speaking with Julie Fernandez Julie is a trauma therapist and operations manager for La Maida Institute – a holistic Wellness Center here in North Hollywood California. She’s also a yoga instructor and program manager for Exhale to Inhale. Julie’s been on the show once before and it’s a real pleasure to have her back! Julie is also my yoga instructor. She’s helping me improve my flexibility and Joint strength so that I can continue to do Brazilian jiu-jitsu. She’s also Brazilian jiu-jitsu practitioners as well.
Our topic today is embracing your strengths and masculine and feminine power welcome Julie!
Julie: thank you thank you, nice to be back
Hector: Right on. We’ve had a couple of interesting conversations recently. We got into the topic of embracing your strength it started out as a conversation about martial arts and feeling strong and embracing that power. The power that you feel. It evolved into this conversation about embracing our power.
You and I both didn’t want to accept our own power. The way that you are powerful – the way that it came across to me was that you didn’t want to acknowledge that power. You’re finally acknowledging that. Please let the listeners know about that.
“I didn’t want to be seen as weak.”
Julie: it’s been a journey we talked about that it stems back from childhood. I’m a Survivor of a lot of abuse, a lot of sexual and physical abuse. In many cases my power was taken away I always felt really weak and in order for me to keep going I had to be tough. I wanted to do away with all the girly stuff.
I didn’t want people to see me as weak. Because, I had to be strong cuz I had to protect myself. It’s really helpful to have that and then as I got older.
As I grew into a woman, I also wanted to be seen as feminine so then I had to let go of that strong Persona or so I thought and whenever somebody would mention that I was strong physically. I remember having such a negative reaction to it and got to be seen as a strong woman. It’s just that whole dynamic is really hard for me to accept that I am strong I wanted to be seen as a beautiful woman it was hard for me to accept both – to be seen as both.
“…feeling my strength… it was really healing for me.”
The last few years I started getting into weight training, and I started tapping into my strength even my trainers and some of the people I train with would always comment that I feel so strong. I don’t want to be and I am actually really strong – physically strong.
It was something to see myself get stronger and stronger each time lifting heavier and heavier weights. this is me learning to accept that what would it be like for me to use that in different ways and that’s when I started to get into Jiu Jitsu and seeing and feeling my strength in that way it was really really healing for me for me.
Episode 25: Sexual Empowerment Over 40 with Celeste Hirschman. Some of our deepest pain is related to sex and personal relationships. Sexual empowerment over 40 with Celeste Hirschman, is an open conversation about feeling loved and held instead of abandoned and disconnected. It gets easier to be sexually empowered after the age of 40. Advertising and media are not marketing to you as heavily. This frees you up to live the life you always wanted. That includes great sex!
About Celeste Hirschman
Celeste Hirschman received her Master’s Degree in Human Sexuality Studies from San Francisco State University. Ms. Hirshman taught as a lecturer at San Francisco State University (SFSU) in the Human Sexuality Studies Department and was a Project Manager at SFSU’s Center for Research on Gender and Sexuality, where she co-authored numerous articles on adolescent sexual development. She is the Co-founder and the Co-creator of the Somatica Method ® and trains coaches in the method. Celeste also has her own private practice where she sees clients in her San Francisco office.
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