Returning to Jiu Jitsu after 40 with Felicia Oh, is such an awesome conversation, that I had to turn it into a two-part podcast. I read a Facebook post written by Felicia that was so inspiring to me that I myself returned to my old practice of Brazilian Jiu Jitsu the following week. Felicia is an accomplished Brazilian Jiu Jitsu Black Belt under Jean Jacques Machado. She’s competed at the highest levels of BJJ competition and has won many competitions. She’s also an artist with an MFA from UCLA.
I wanted to do this podcast with Felicia to discover how she made her comeback to BJJ, and why she did it in the first place. It was so much fun talking with my old training partner and friend, Felicia, that I turned it into a two-part conversation. Felicia has dealt with a chronic illness and pain for several years, and still trains Jiu Jitsu on a weekly basis. The second part will appear on the podcast next week. So subscribe and keep up on the latest interviews!
What You’ll Learn From this Podcast:
- Why coming back to competitive sports and Jiu Jitsu in Particular is a great idea for people over 40.
- What supplements Felicia took to feel confident and strong to get back into the dojo?
- Felicia was one of the most active competitors in tournaments from our club. How it feels to train but not compete.
- The match with Megumi Fuji was very competitive at the Abu Dhabi. Was there ever a point where Felicia doubted herself?
- How our bodies change as we get older, and how to adapt and overcome those changes.
- Competitive desires and how to redefine the “win”.
- Bringing your life experience, patience, and wisdom to every aspect of your life – even in the dojo.
- How age and experience beats youth and athleticism!
Healing power of mindful breathing is an organic conversation with trauma recovery specialist Julie Fernandez. I met Julie at La Maida Institute. She and Anjali Deva are two of my yoga teachers. Julie talks about the body’s natural wisdom and it’s ability to heal itself. The healing power of mindful breathing is also a big part of Vipasana meditation and releasing painful experiences that are held in the tissues of our bodies.
A few things became clear, as my conversation with Julie unfolded. Initially, after we admitted to initial nervousness on both of our parts, we were able to relax into an open discussion. Thus, I saw how Julie’s work is similar to Soma Miller’s work, and even the Wim Hoth method. Nature holds the key to wellness. Embracing nature is the reset button. Finally, after hearing Julie’s story, I was struck by how brave Julie is and I admitted to my concern for her own care. She illustrated clearly how she takes care of her physical and mental health through her own practice. This woman walks her talk.
From Julie Fernandez
My name is Julie Fernandez and I serve as a yoga teacher and breath-work coach specializing in healing trauma. Yoga and breath-work are tools I use to relieve individuals with symptoms of trauma in the body. This helps to regulate the nervous system. My compassionate approach centers on recognizing the strength within. Shedding judgement, guilt and shame that arise from unresolved traumas is the goal. Some of the conditions I work with include Complex, Developmental and Shock Traumas, Anxiety, Depression, Dissociative Disorders, as well as Eating Disorders.
My experience comes from working in domestic violence shelters, rape and sexual assault crisis centers. I also help those with eating disorders. Working in mental health clinics, and inner-city schools, with at-risk teenage girls and disadvantaged youth is rewarding to me. Currently, I work closely with psychiatrist, Dr. Omid Naim and an incredible team of practitioners at Hope Integrative Psychiatry in North Hollywood, CA and LA Resiliency Center in Burbank, CA. I am also fortunate enough to be a part of the team at La Maida Institute where I work to support the systems and operational structure so that our center can be a source of healing and transformation.
Additionally, I serve as the Southern California Program Manager for Exhale to Inhale, a non-profit organization which empowers survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault to reclaim their lives through the healing and grounding practice of yoga.
What You’ll Hear
- What a trauma recovery specialist is, and why did Julie become one.
- How emotional scars of past trauma can remain in our body.
- Why emotional scars are sometimes harder to heal than the physical scars.
- How this therapy actually works.
- How Julie takes care of herself, and “shakes off” the anxiety, like animals do in nature.
- The many similarities to Julie’s work and the Wim Hoff method.
- Breathing and nature’s healing power
Metta Healing Arts
Exhale to Inhale
La Maida Institute
This episode, Amber Gourley, the “disobedient dietitian”, is talking about Inflammation and Pain Management and how those two things relate to something called functional nutrition, and food sensitivity.
What it’s about:
There’s a lot of conflicting information about what you should eat on the internet. I’m doing an extended series about food facts and fiction. this is the first episode. I sought out registered dietitian Amber Gourley, to talk about inflammation and food. Here’s why food can effect you, give you chronic pain in your joints and other types of inflammation. We discuss the similarities between her ideas and the ancient science of Ayurveda Plus we talk about healthy bacteria and your body’s ability to heal itself over time.
From the Disobedient Dietitian:
“Everyone has an opinion about how to be ‘healthy’. There are the people who tell you not to eat carbs, while others tell you not to eat fat, and others tell you not to eat sugar. (what the hell are you supposed to eat, then?) Then there are the people who tell you to go vegetarian. And the people who tell you to go Paleo. And the people who tell you to go Paleo vegetarian. And THEN there are the people who tell you to cut your calorie intake, or exercise more, or take this medication and everything will be better. (There are even people who tell you that bacon is bad.)”
What you learn
- What is functional nutrition and how is Amber different from a traditional dietitian
- What is inflammation and how does it relate to Chronic illness and pain?
- Can you manage pain through nutrition alone?
- Fermented foods and why you should be eating them.
- Gut microbes and “good” bacteria
- What is food sensitivity testing & LEAP , who is it for and does it really help?
The Disobedient Dietitian Website
Nature’s healing power. This is a discussion with Men’s Coach Soma Miller, about nature’s power to heal illnesses like depression, and anxiety. We talk about violence in cities. We discuss my theory that something a simple as working out or resting in nature could hold a key to peace in our inner cities. Soma talks about Permaculture and integrating with nature and why trying to dominate and control nature is slowly killing us.
WHAT HAS EMERGED FROM THIS OFTENTIMES DISMANTLING WORK, IS A GROUND OF HUMILITY. IT’S A DEPTH OF SELF-LOVE AND A MASSIVE WELL OF COMPASSION THAT I EXTEND TO ALL THE MEN I WORK WITH.
This Show Is About…
The healing power of nature is something that I’ve experienced first hand. I’m not alone in this sentiment. Many people, throughout history, have pointed out nature’s healing power as valued and vital, to their mindset and well being. Henry David Thoreau said, “I believe that there is a subtle magnetism in Nature, which, if we unconsciously yield to it, will direct us aright.”
On a slightly more political note Walt Whitman said, “Without enough wilderness America will change. Democracy, with its myriad personalities and increasing sophistication, must be fibred and vitalized by regular contact with outdoor growths – animals, trees, sun, warmth and free skies – or it will dwindle and pale.” In 2015 a Stanford University study said that 70% of humanity will live in cities by the year 2050. I believe that the increase in depression and anxiety in Western society is caused by a disconnection with the natural world.
I sought out men’s work coach, permaculture designer, and facilitator Soma Miller to discuss these topics on the podcast. Soma’s wisdom and integrity – especially regarding the topic of integration and living within the patterns of the natural world, have been valuable to me throughout the years. I hope that you enjoy this episode.
What you’ll hear on this podcast
- Why it’s particularly important for men to reconnect with nature.
- Doing retreats in nature as a group reveal a lot about us.
- A solo camping trip or even a hike alone are beneficial and help to ward off depression.
- Our theory that inner city urban violence is a direct result of a disconnection with ourselves and the natural world.
- Soma’s upcoming in-person and virtual workshops and men’s groups.
Heather Gray the mindset “shrink” with tips on creating success at any stage in life. Improve performance, achieve your goals at any stage in life.
What this episode is about
Our topic in this episode – Creating success at any stage in life. We’re going to be speaking with Heather Gray. This podcast came about based on Heather’s awesome, “I didn’t come this far, to only come this far” birthday post on Facebook. Heather is going to give us some tips and ideas to change, what you can do to make forward progress in your 40’s and beyond. We talk about making meaningful changes to your life, keeping what you like – or improve upon, and how she is sticking to her own plan for living. This is a powerful no bullshit conversation about what it takes to be successful in all areas of your life. Heather walks her talk, so take notes.
Heather Gray Bio
Heather Gray is a performance and mindset coach for business owners and leaders at Choose to Have It All. Her clients move past sharing pithy, motivational quotes as a mindset strategy and learn instead how to put those concepts into action in their own lives. Join her community group on FB to continue the conversation.
What you’ll learn
- How you can set a powerful intention
- Is it better to set an intention or have goals with deadlines or both?
- How you show up in relationships when you’ve make powerful changes in your life.
- How boundaries change and improve when you set out on a journey to succeed in life.
- Do your identity, goals, and point of view shift when you’re in your 40’s?
- What is consistent intention and how to apply it in life?
- “Talk the talk and walk the walk.” Heather and I discuss what that really means. and the prices that we’ve paid to make success happen.
- How can a person who feels that others are responsible for their own hardships, take responsibility for themselves?
Choose to Have It All
Using Emotions to Better Communicate with Your Partner. Transformational coach Angus Ross gives us the 411 on how to improve communication with your partner during times of emotional turmoil.
What this episode is about
Communication during emotional times is difficult for everyone. For men, in particular, emotional conversations often feel like nightmares to be avoided. We look for ways to either avoid or control the conversation. Logic and reason don’t work during these moments. If we’re smart, we never utter the dreaded words, “calm down”. That seems to have the opposite effect. We scratch our heads wondering why our efforts to calm her has the opposite effect. Any solutions that we present are discarded with contempt. This leaves us feeling unappreciated and resentful. Then we end up avoiding her, and the difficult conversation. At times, sex goes out the window, along with the lack of communication. But what if it didn’t have to be like this? What if you had a plan for what to do during these times?
Transformational coach Angus Ross coaches individuals and facilitates workshops with his wife Rohini Ross. He gives you some solid tips on what to do when emotionally difficult arguments happen. It’s easier than you think. Some of the tips are a little counter-intuitive, but with practice, you’ll be able to navigate these conversations. You’ll come to understand her better, and improve your relationships, making your communications clearer, and your connections stronger.
Angus Ross Bio
After a long career as a fashion and advertising photographer, Angus has taken to transformational coaching like a duck to water. Mentored by the world famous Pransky & Associates, he has developed an insatiable appetite for helping people tap in to their true potential. From the defense industry to women’s retail. from the federal prison system to the world of sport, from couples and individuals, to large groups, Angus connects with his clients in a very honest and open way and then talks about the role of thought and how it either frees or limits us. It sounds simple enough, but this is what helps Angus’ clients tune into their essential nature and experience a much higher degree of success and well-being in their lives.
What You’ll Learn
- A useful description of the 3 Principles, and how to use them in your day to day life.
- Why controlling or avoiding difficult conversations rarely work.
- How to become a model for better communications when the conversation goes “pear shaped”.
- Why telling her to “calm down” usually has the opposite effect.
- When to approach difficult topics of conversation.
- How not to take nasty comments during arguments personally.
- How to rebuild trust when problems arise in the relationship.