Using Emotions to Better Communicate with Your Partner. Transformational coach Angus Ross gives us the 411 on how to improve communication with your partner during times of emotional turmoil.
What this episode is about
Communication during emotional times is difficult for everyone. For men, in particular, emotional conversations often feel like nightmares to be avoided. We look for ways to either avoid or control the conversation. Logic and reason don’t work during these moments. If we’re smart, we never utter the dreaded words, “calm down”. That seems to have the opposite effect. We scratch our heads wondering why our efforts to calm her has the opposite effect. Any solutions that we present are discarded with contempt.
This leaves us feeling unappreciated and resentful. We end up avoiding her, and the difficult conversation continues unresolved. At times, sex goes out the window, along with the lack of communication. But what if it didn’t have to be like this? What if you had a plan for what to do during these times?
Transformational coach Angus Ross coaches individuals and facilitates workshops with his wife Rohini Ross. He gives you some solid tips on what to do when emotionally difficult arguments happen. It’s easier than you think. Some of the tips are a little counter-intuitive, but with practice, you’ll be able to navigate these conversations. You’ll come to understand her better, and improve your relationships, making your communications clearer, and your connections stronger.
Angus Ross Bio
After a long career as a fashion and advertising photographer, Angus has taken to transformational coaching like a duck to water. Mentored by the world famous Pransky & Associates, he has developed an insatiable appetite for helping people tap in to their true potential.
From the defense industry to women’s retail. from the federal prison system to the world of sport, from couples and individuals, to large groups, Angus connects with his clients in a very honest and open way and then talks about the role of thought and how it either frees or limits us. It sounds simple enough, but this is what helps Angus’ clients tune into their essential nature and experience a much higher degree of success and well-being in their lives.
What You’ll Learn
- A useful description of the 3 Principles, and how to use them in your day to day life.
- Why controlling or avoiding difficult conversations rarely work.
- How to become a model for better communications when the conversation goes “pear shaped”.
- Why telling her to “calm down” usually has the opposite effect.
- When to approach difficult topics of conversation.
- How not to take nasty comments during arguments personally.
- How to rebuild trust when problems arise in the relationship.